Paula D’Arcy was only twenty-seven when a drunk driver killed her husband and young daughter. But in the midst of her crushing despair, and to her utter amazement, she discovered a presence within herself that responded to her fearful cries for help. Her anguished heart was met by a great tenderness and wisdom, which she grew to recognize as a transcendent love. Over time—knowing that pain was not the final say and did not have absolute power—she was able to find her way back to the light.
At some point in life, we all find ourselves navigating a “dark night.” The feeling of being blindsided by life, disoriented, lost and alone, is common to the human journey. Beyond the loss of loved ones through physical death, darkness may arise if we suffer the loss of a job or the loss of faith. Disillusionment, the pain of divorce, the realities of aging…. Each of these experiences has the potential to alter the way we look at ourselves and the way we think about the life journey.
In this captivating work, D’Arcy begins with the dark of her own personal experience of loss and brings us with her, explaining how the enveloping darkness eventually began to lift, how night slowly became day again, and how she came to recognize the experience as a natural part of life. If you’ve experienced great loss, or if you’re feeling lost in the darkness yourself, Stars at Night can be a lifeline back into the light.
Paula D’Arcy, author (Song for Sarah, The Divine Spark, Gift of the Red Bird) and retreat leader, travels widely in the United States and abroad. Her work includes workshops and retreats related to spirituality, writing, women’s gatherings, (including women’s initiation and rites of passage), and creating venues where men and women experience an opening of the heart and a change in their way of being in the world. She is also founder of Red Bird Foundation and serves as adjunct faculty at Oblate School of Theology and Seton Cove Spirituality Center, in Texas.
1. Why was this book important for you to write?
2. What makes the experience of Darkness so difficult for us?
3. In your journey to begin again, what surprised you the most?
4. You write about the Darkness, the Mist, and the Dawn. What is the Mist like?
5. What do you mean in your book when you write about “letting go”?